10 Commandments for Caring for Aging Parents

Mother and Daughter
  1. Honor thy mother and thy father
  2. Accept them as they are... not who they used to be or who you want them to be.
  3. Don't nag, correct, or argue. Re-direct the discussion and ignore the way history is being re-written. In the big picture, it doesn't matter.
  4. Dispense with denial... try to be realistic and accept the changes that are taking place. Are they safe? What is the quality of life?
  5. Allow them to be as independent as possible. Do not be an overprotective child.
  6. Let go of the past... old battles need to be put aside for wounds to heal. You can forgive, it is healthier.
  7. Remember this is their life, not yours... see things through their eyes.
  8. Respect their wishes.
  9. Set limits. For yourself and with your parents. Avoid martyrdom.
  10. Enjoy the time you have together... the time is finite, make it count.

- By Marsha R. Foley, RN, MBA
Courtesy of Alexian Brothers Health System
Alexian Brothers